Does "shared care" mean that there will be another midwife next to the first one when you give birth?
Are you upset because she sees the reason for this in it being your 6th baby? You shouldn't be - after all she realises that Florence died just because she did - and not because it was anybody's "fault". So - she just put down a normal reason - a 6ht baby isn't so common after all ;-)

Hope you'll be better soon!
Daria

Oh no, it must've been stressful...hunger, thirst and nausea mixed with a dose of anxiety is not a good mix, hugs. Ice might help you have more fluids without actually drinking, lollies, ice cubes etc...plus it helps with the nausea as it numbs that sicky sensation in the mouth. xxx

Tulip, sorry, I forget readers outside the UK might not know what "shared care" means. It means I get most of my ante natal care in the community from the midwives, but will also see a consultant obstetrician for part of my care.
Not something I've ever experienced before.

Thanks Fiona, yes ice lollies do help, good tip.

do you like melons? watery fruits can also be a wonderful source of fluids (when drinking is not appealing)...plus the blood sugar boost. Keep being gentle with yourself....it is all one day at a time. You are doing beautifully just being you and that's all you can do.
love and light

Oof. It's so bloody hard, Jeanette.

And no, I can't believe that re:shared care, how very odd. I mean, I would completely get it if it were related to Florence's death (we had full OB care for my pregnancy with Moe, because Iris died in utero) but because this baby is your 6th? Weird. What was their rationale?

xx

I had to have shared care for 2nd and 3rd boys - it's not so bad hun. Hope you are feeling better x

Jess, I don't get it either. I'm ok with shared care or even full Ob care tbh, I just thought the reasoning was a little strange.


Thanks for all the tips for getting fluids into me guys.x

Sounds odd to me, too. I saw an ob for my pregnancy with Angus, when for Hope I just saw a team of midwives. It was because I was now considered high risk, which didn't sit all that well with me as Hope's death was just like lightning and there was no increased risk it could happen again. Really, I think we are all high risk as it can happen to any one of us. I was just so stupidly unlucky, as were you.
I wish our girls were here.

xo

hi jeanette, i think the shared care thing just means shared between primary care ie the GP and secondary care, ie the hospital/consultants, and hopefully for you and your family it means you will maybe receive a better 'package' of care. I'm sending my caring thoughts to you and hoping you will be feeling a bit better soon and the nausea will soon be subsiding. lots of drinks for you my girl x x x

Hope you are feeling better soon. xx