A Little Late...

4:04 pm

...and I can't promise I can keep up, but I'm joining in with my fellow babyloss bloggers and taking part in a post for every day of October,pregnancy and baby loss and awareness month.See Angie's post for more details.

Firstly, lets play catch up:

Day 1 - a song that reminds you of your child, or one that you can't listen to anymore and why.

OK, so my friends who are into music think I'm hilariously out of touch, and I am. I really prefer silence most of the time. That's not to say I don't like music, I do,but I guess I have pretty eclectic taste.
One song though that I listened to over and over again after Florence died was Evanescence - Bring Me To Life I'd put it on loud and sob.I wrote about it here.

Day 2 - a movie that helped you get through the hard times, or one that jumps out at you after your loss.

Hmmm, ok, I'm not much of a movie watcher either, but after florence died we did snuggle up together as a family and watch kids movies with the children quite regularly. We all needed the distraction and the comfort of being together. One of those movies was Stardust, a quite lovely fantasy.And of course the theme tune is one of those songs I can't hear without tearing up. I know it's a love song, but as we babylost know love songs are often so approriate for our babies too.

Day 3 - a television program that helped you either get through hard times or that moves you.

I do watch television, but I'm a channel hopper, so rarely watch anything for more than a few minutes.
I have watched a recent series Roger And Val Have Just Got In. I started watching because it stars Dawn French, and I thought it was going to be funny, but quickly realised there was an underlying theme...though thought I was imagining what it was initially.I was right though, and it becomes clear that this slightly eccentric couple had suffered baby loss 18 years previously.
The series didn't get great reviews,but I loved it, some of the lines are amazing.Roger and Val get carried away with their thoughts and imaginings sometimes, and in the final episode Roger tells Val she's braver than a mountaineer, because her baby died and she survived.

Day 4 - your favorite book. has it changed since your loss?

My favourite book is Eric Carle's The Very Hungry Caterpillar, and I'm not trying to be cute. That truly is my fave all time book. I adore the illustrations, and have done since the very first time I was read the book in a school assembly when I was about four years old.

I can't not mention Elizabeth McCrackens, An Exact Replica of a Figment of my Imagination, though. I read that book soon after Florence died, I devoured it in a day and a half, it so perfectly described so much about baby loss, and I would highly recommend it to anyone who has had the misfortune to lose a baby, and also to anyone who wants to understand more.I wanted to buy copies for everyone I knew when they wanted to know how I was, and just say "that".

Phew, so there you go, all caught up, and possibly exposed now as quite a poorly read, uncultured nitwit!

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  1. I cheated and didn't do days one and two. Just picked it up at three but, if I'd done the music one, Rule the World would have been a piece of music that I will forever associate with my precious girl. I didn't watch Roger and Val but I did hear it reviewed and the reviewer mentioned something from their past that would be revealed at some point. I (of course) immediately assumed baby loss. Interesting to know I was right.

  2. WE love Stardust around here too. Have you ever read the book? Not exactly PG, but a great read.

  3. Those were great. Is Stardust from that Neil Gaiman book?

  4. Jeanette- I just found your blog through another mamma. What else to say other than I am new to the path. We lost our sweet 4th child- Cullen Liam on Sept. 11th. Only a few weeks out I am trying to find my way. Your story is a light- just like so many other mammas who understand how awful this is. I too started a blog- for now I just wanted to say that I am here reading and that my heart is full for you and your new sweet boy. One year down the road changed you immensely- I just wonder where on earth I will be by then.
    With grace- Leslie

  5. Still Life Angie ... yes it is. :)

  6. Jill, I remembered that song meant a lot to you too.Whenever I hear it, I not only think of Florence, but of Emma too. x

  7. Leslie, I'm so sorry you have joined this shitty club of babyloss.Thank you for your comment. Sending you love.x

  8. About 6 weeks after Isabelle died I went to see Ballboy play in Nottingham and their album that they released that summer became my soundtrack for about the next 6 months. It still makes me sob now.

    That and Jeff Buckey's Hallelujah.

  9. I congratulate you on your excellent taste in music :P Evanesence rock (and so does the Hungry Caterpillar)

  10. I've caught a few episode of Roger And Val, and though I don't know you, Jeanette, I've thought of you whilst watching it.
    I have felt very grateful to you for sharing Florence's story and your journey through this, as it has helped me be a better friend to babylost women I know. I feel odd writing that, so I hope it makes sense.

  11. I love Stardust, the book and the film and the theme tune is the one records that I always requested on hospital radio for the girls all the time we were there.

    I also love The Very Hungry Caterpillar but I have to confess I still haven't read An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination. I can't even think of the title without crying.


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